If you saw the girl of your dreams on a train, but lost her in the crowd before you could talk to her, what would you do?
For web-designer Patrick Moberg, what he did was set up a website. He drew a picture of her (as seen above), and posted his quest.
What happened was, within hours, his inbox was flooded with mail, and calls were coming in. Some of them had information to give, and yet others found him 'cute' and wanted to meet him. Eventually though, he was put in touch with her.
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A lot of us would draw the conclusion that the attraction is physical, but are there any pre-interactional cues involved? A quote from a movie had a guy that said he liked 'girls who read on the train'. Did Moberg here draw conclusions about this girl's character through the writing of her journal?
Why did people call in and say he's 'adorable' ? How did his website potray him that way? Does the way he draw or write give off cues as to his adorable nature? Or does this behavior of putting up a website to get to know a girl show the kind of person he is?
Here, you girls can see how adorable he is here.
Putting up a website for that purpose is indeed something different. Many people like to target the online community as promoting anti-social behavior, but this shows how the internet can actually be used to promote social behavior (albeit for two people). I have many friends that join online interest groups and actually meet up to form new friends. Why should our friends be limited to circumstance? Limited to school? Limited to our workplace? Limited to our neighborhood. The internet helps connect people all over, and this is a good thing. It is how we use it that matters.
9 comments:
yes, i simply could not find any reason to why we cannot find friends online. but honestly, i did not expect that guy to have found the girl he saw on the train by posting a drawing of her on the website. this is something new to me.
nevertheless, technology has enabled us to do so many things but this, does not exclude finding our desired partner(s).
Maybe it was a case of true love at first sight. :D In which case, I'd have to go, "Awwww" It was very sweet of him to try so hard to find the girl that he liked. Maybe it's just because it appeals to the mushy side of me. Also, his good looks are an added bonus. That's probably why, in addition to his unusual goal, he received so much attention. People still judge based on physical appearances. You can be sure that if he wasn't so good looking, he wouldn't have received so many responses.
The internet is quickly becoming a second way to live your life. Instant connections, updates, and communication exists through this channel. It may be less personal, but hey, it really is more efficient than communicating in real life.
i see a little of novelty stimuli is this one. His method used to seek the girl of his dreams is very unique and i feel that itself is an attraction for many. I don't exactly know how girls find that attractive but i guess they do. The dude isn't Brad pitt but he isn't George Constaza or william hung so unless you're atrociously ugly, there's a fairly good chance that girls will reply. Its the whole curiosity come novel thing.
I agree with Kristy that the internet is a more efficient way of communicating, but is it the most effective?. definitely not from my point of view. i shant go on about the whole nonverbal cues thing, we all know how it works...
Q: Why should our friends be limited to circumstances?
A: Because with quantity, you loose quality.
We are only given 24 hours a day, of which a third (on average) is spent sleeping. The other 16 hours are shared between school, work, play and of course, socialising. When have too many friends, who is going to give us the extra time needed to build a relationship?
In the end, we end up going online, opening 20 chat windows, and try to catch up with friends while trying to watch the TV and stuff our face. Oh, did i forget to mention how you're playing WOW too? How sincere is that?
I wonder how the story ended! Did the girl see him as the E-Knight in shining armour or was he the creepy weirdo. I agree that relationship formings should not be limited to school etc. But meeting people online just takes the fun outta getting to know someone personally. Some people sound real sweet online, but in person their sugar coated words may just sound corny! As for me, online could be the platform for meeting someone new, but the relationship formation should be done in person!
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@zed, I think you got what I mean wrongly. I don't mean finding or adding more friends to your list or what not. Rather, what if there are people out there who you could really identify with, and be really good friends with? But he or she is not in your school, workplace, or neighborhood. It's just kinda sad.. the internet isnt the solution either, just lamenting about a whole general issue. It's like, if you cant find the right friends in your social circumstances, do u just accept not having friends, or where would you look for friends?
You should know that i'm a a-few-close-friends kinda guy as well.
hey darren, the internet, as a platform, is useful and very convenient for searching and screening for prospective friends. however, given how there are countless traps and danger involved in meeting new people through this new medium, we should always be mindful.
the story you brought up is one successful case study. but how many others out there have failed in their similar attempts? wouldn't it be simpler if we just leave things to fate?
Hmmm, that sounds like love at first sight. Frankly, I do not believe in love at first sight. I know others may disagree but it will always be lust at first sight to me! HAHA!
I agree with you about the internet promoting social behavior. The important aspect about online communication which many people tend to miss is the fact that you are interacting with other people when you are online.
Those who say otherwise probably do not like reading books either. Reading is more anti-social than chatting on the internet in my opinion. The crux of the matter is that you communicate with others, regardless of the setting.
Just my 2 cents.(which is, due to inflation, worth less than before....)
Such an eye-opener! I have to agree that this receieved alot of attention only because he's young, daring, and good looking. Imagine the response if he was an older, balding creepy guy?
Again, I think that first impressions formulated the way this story have went. At the end of the day, I wouldnt be too thrilled if I knew a girl that was only interested in 'how i looked', went all out and made an online post to find me. That's infatuation without even knowing how the person is like, his/her character, mannerism, and personality. All is fine and dandy if he was out to make friends, but to this extent of looking for 'love' just seems creepy to me.
Regards,
Shawn Lee Wei Bin
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